Once again, the other day I was on the phone to my friend of mine, and we got talking about a bunch of things that got me thinking about people and heir behaviour. This will soon begin to go without saying, but I continue to surprise myself with how deeply curious I am about understanding my inner bing, and often at times by observing other people I become more attuned with the knowledge of who I am actually.
Moving on though, having been a people pleaser for a significant chunk of my brief existence I have always tried to influence people’s behaviour in a way that benefits or allows me to live in peace amongst them at the very least. Having created bonds with people who are people pleasers themselves, I have also been on the receiving end of behaviours that are acted upon in an effort to achieve a specific reaction out of me.
There are times where such behaviours are not necessarily being done for one’s benefit, but rather for the security or assurance that the said individual won’t be on the receiving end of a person’s negative traits. In other words, sometimes people try to please others in return for peace or mercy.
It is here where my curiosity does lead me to wonder, whether these efforts to avoid triggering somebody’s negative traits are all but some sort of phantom illusion. What if we are doomed from the start irrespective of how we choose to behave around people?
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